Life and Lessons Learned

#5  I Don’t Have a  Soul

Did you read that title?  You read it right.  I do not have a soul and neither do you!  How is that for an epiphany?  Thirty-seven years and I’m just understanding this now.

“You don’t have a soul.  You are a soul.  You have a body.”  The origin of the quote varies.  Many attribute these words to C.S. Lewis.  I have also read that it dates back to 1892 a few years before C.S. Lewis was even born.  Whoever uttered or wrote these words for the first time is a genius in my mind.

So often we try to define ourselves by the wrong things.  Weight is high on the list methods to determine our self worth.  The most self-depracating sentence known to man, “I am so fat.”  It is a fallacy.  The true statement is, “I am not fat, I am a soul, I have fat.”  See how fun this is!  I was guilty of it, I was allowing all the wrong things to define who I was.

Try to reconstruct your own worst criticism of yourself using the same verbiage.

  • I am a bulimic…I am not an eating disorder.  I am a soul.  I have an eating disorder.
  • I am an alcoholic…I am not an alcoholic.  I am soul.  I have problems with alcohol.
  • I am depressed…I am not depressed.  I am a soul.  I have issues with depression.

There is a poem that I remember reading in high school by Jorge Luis Borges.   The poem reads “…so you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.”  No one can make you as beautiful as you can make yourself.  No one can build you higher than you can build yourself.  No one can make you happier than you can make yourself.

My life is shifting as I learn to decorate my own soul.  I am realizing that I can only truly love others after I have learned to love myself.  It’s like being on an airplane when the flight attendant tells you that incase of an emergency you must help yourself before you can help others.  As my father would say, “same, same, all same.”  You can only love others after you have learned to love yourself.  Boom!  Let it all sink in.

Lesson #5 is seeing yourself as a soul.  Now go decorate.


Lovely art by, Doodling a Smile 




  1. Sandy

    December 28th, 2014 at 5:22 am

    Love this! A life lesson that is hard to learn, so it must be practiced often. Bookmarking it! 🙂

  2. admin

    December 28th, 2014 at 6:21 am

    You made my day!

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